Thankfully two "friends" who constantly tried to "fix" and "improve" me and pushily offer unrelenting unsolicited advice about every aspect of my life, right down to how I managed my place setting when I attended Joshua D. Rumschlag's delightful seed swap potluck, withdrew themselves when I objected in a stronger, less polite fashion. When they wanted lemons and papayas from me he'd time and again tell me I was not picking them "right" even though many times I'd say, politely, "you pick fruit the way you want to, I'll pick fruit the way I want to". I guess politeness was the problem....I should have long ago said "MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING BUSINESS!!!" Their own lives are full of family discord due to that behavior, plus chronic health issues due to poor diet, so why they felt "qualified" to intervene in my life, right down to personal finances (I've been debt free and ample savings since 2005 long before Dad passed away last June16) is beyond me. Rejecting me for objecting was the best thing they could have done for me! Whew!